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Written for the week you are actually in.
Over 1,500 guides, and a way through them that does not require knowing what to search for. Sorted by what is happening, not by what it is called.
None of this requires an account, and none of it requires Proxi. It is here because we needed it and could not find it in one place.
If it is bad right now
Start here, and skip the rest of this page.
If somebody is in danger, the numbers at the top of this page are the right thing, not an article.
Everything else on this page will still be here afterwards.
Something is happening right nowCrisis numbers are at the top of every page on this site, always, including this one. 988, the Alzheimer’s Association line, and the Eldercare Locator.
Tonight is going badlySundowning, the overnight cycle, and what to do when the calls will not stop.
You are not copingCaregiver health, and the part where the person who needs help is you.
What you are sorting out
The things that take a week and nobody warned you about.
Each one is a guide rather than an article: what to do, in what order, and what it costs.
The first thirty daysWhat to do first after a diagnosis, in the order that actually helps.
Legal and moneyPower of attorney, benefits, what is covered and what is not.
Respite and help at homeWhat exists, what it costs, and how people actually pay for it.
Family conversationsSiblings who visit once a month and think that is the same thing.
Home safetyThe house, the stove, the door, and what is worth changing first.
PlacementHow to know, how to choose, and how to carry it afterwards.
Proxi is not emergency support and does not provide medical advice.