incontinence supplies and products

Do not scold or shame the person—they are not having accidents on purpose. Saying things like 'You wet yourself' causes embarrassment and anxiety, which can make things worse. Instead, say, 'Anyone can have an accident. Let's get you cleaned up.'

Do not limit fluids to try to reduce accidents. This causes dehydration, concentrated urine, bladder irritation, and a higher risk of urinary tract infections. Offer water and other healthy drinks regularly and rely on a bathroom schedule instead.

Do not use scented wipes, sprays, or powders in the genital area. These can irritate sensitive skin and increase infection risk. Use unscented, alcohol-free wipes and a gentle barrier cream, and save deodorizing sprays for the trash, not the person.

Do not ignore signs of a urinary tract infection, which can come on quickly in someone with dementia. Watch for dark or strong-smelling urine, fever, new or worsening confusion, or a sudden jump in accidents, and contact the doctor promptly if you suspect an infection.

Timed Voiding Schedule

Set a phone alarm or kitchen timer for every two to two and a half hours. Write the times on a small whiteboard in the bathroom so other caregivers stay on track. When the timer goes off, say gently, 'It's time to try the bathroom now.' This is the single most effective tool for preventing accidents and reducing infections.

Bathroom Sign and Path

Tape a picture of a toilet to the bathroom door at eye level. Plug in a soft nightlight in the hallway and another in the bathroom. Remove throw rugs, cords, and any furniture blocking the way, and install grab bars beside the toilet. A clear, well-lit path helps your loved one find the bathroom on their own and prevents falls.

Absorbent Briefs and Pull-ups

Start with a small pack of a trusted brand like Depends or a store brand, and look for a wetness indicator stripe and odor control. Pull-ups work well during the day because they feel like regular underwear; tape-on briefs give stronger protection at night or for heavy incontinence. Check the fit: snug around the waist and legs with no gaps, but not so tight that it pinches.

Waterproof Mattress Cover and Washable Bed Pads

Zip a waterproof cover over the mattress under the fitted sheet to protect against deep stains and odors. On top of the sheet, lay a washable bed pad (often called a chuck) where the hips rest, so you can swap it out quickly after an accident. Add a waterproof pad to favorite chairs and the car seat for the same easy-cleanup protection.

Cleanup Kit

Pack a small basket or caddy with disposable gloves, unscented adult wipes or baby wipes, a plastic bag for soiled items, a spare change of clothes, and a barrier cream such as A+D or Desitin. Keep one kit in the bathroom and a second in the bedroom, and restock after each use. Having everything in one place saves time and stress when an accident happens.

Bidet Attachment

A simple bidet attachment that screws onto the existing toilet offers a gentle spray of water for cleaning, which is faster, more thorough, and easier on the skin than wiping, especially for women. Look for a model with a single side lever, adjustable pressure, and easy installation with no plumber needed. It reduces irritation, helps prevent infection, and gives your loved one more independence.

Bedside Commode

A folding bedside commode can be a real help at night or when the bathroom is far away. Choose one with a removable bucket for easy emptying, a splash guard, and a padded seat for comfort. Place it within reach of the bed, keep a nightlight on it, and empty and clean it every morning. It cuts down on late-night wandering, falls, and wet bedding.